Linda Savage, 25, is a sports development officer and a GB leader from Northants, reviews Rachel Gardner and Andre Adefope’s new book The Dating Dilemma. Here are her thoughts:Boy meets girl.
Boy and girl go on romantic dates.
Boy and girl establish healthy boundaries, share their hearts and fall in love.
Boy buys ring.
Girl says, 'yes'.
Boy and girl get married ...
If only it was this simple! (Extract from the book).
I will read fiction, I will read non-fiction and in fact I am one of the few people I know that will even read the tiny terms and conditions when signing something. One thing I don’t read is self help books, however on a whim I found myself offering to read and review The Dating Dilemma and I am glad that I did. Gardner and Adefope have written an engaging and challenging book that helps you to look at dating in a completely different light.
If like me you have been single for any length of time, then I am sure you have spent many hours in prayer (or possibly crying into a tub of Ben & Jerry’s) asking God when he is going to do something about me being single and showing me who Mr Right is. Gardner and Adefope challenge you to look at this behaviour and question whether this is the way God wants us to focus on dating. It also examines our behaviour within relations and includes advice for both sexes
Split into three sections The Dating Dilemma tackles issues that sometimes we all struggle with discussing with friends or in churches, including looking at our attitude to God within our relationships, our attitude to sex and dating non-Christians. Throughout the book Gardner and Adefope use relevant stories to illustrate their points backed by biblical insight. At the end of each chapter there is a ‘chat room,’ which poses a series of questions about the chapter.
The only downside of the book for me was the focus on being in a relationship rather than being single and how to find a relationship, although that may be more my point of view and what I wanted out of the book. Having said this I thoroughly enjoyed reading the book and often found myself not wanting to put it down. It has made me think (and pray) differently about my attitude to relationships, being single and what I want from future relationships. I would thoroughly recommend reading this, whatever your relationship status.
Find out how you can win a copy of The Dating Dilemma (courtesy of IVP) here.